I have seen at least 100 Best Man or Maid of Honor speeches, and I can honestly say, that I can count on two hands the toasts that have really stood out and captured the attention of the guests. It is unfortunate that most men and women do not take the time to rehearse, write, or even think about what they will say or how they will say it. Below are some ideas and observations that will really make a difference with the toast.
- The speaker should be the only person standing in the room during the toast. He or she should be standing behind the bride and groom, at their chairs. This will allow for everyone to see the toast and allow for the videographer and photographer to capture this moment. Be sure your DJ has a wireless microphone.
- Speak clearly and slowly! Nervousness affects everyone differently, so be aware of how you react to nerves. You only get one chance to do this, so make it good.
- At the end of the speech, ask the guests to raise their glasses and drink to the bride and groom! Why do so many speakers forget this tradition? Nerves, once again. Be sure to wish them many years of togetherness.
- Don`t forget to acknowledge the bride, if you are the best man; and mention the groom if you are the maid-of-honor! Remember, that you are there to express how perfect this couple is, and how lucky they are to have found each other.
- Mix it up! Tell a funny story (that is not offensive to the group) and speak seriously about the occasion. Humor is always a great icebreaker with any size reception, and will probably get the guests talking at their tables.
- Finally, if you are having two people speak at your Wedding, make sure you have the best speaker go last. Traditionally it is the Best Man who speaks, but if the MOH is also contributing, you figure out the order. Without hurting feelings or offending anyone, you can make that decision together with your fiance, and just let them know the order of speakers.